Are We Careless With Our Words? Why We Shouldn’t Be.

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Matthew 12: 36 “But I tell you that men will have to give an account on the day of judgment for every careless word they have spoken.” GULP…anyone else break into cold sweats when they read this?? EVERY Careless Word? YIKES…. I’m in trouble.

I immediately thanked Jesus for his grace and mercy!

But these words are written in red! This is Jesus talking!!  Jesus is reminding us that our words are important!

Now, He is talking to the Pharisees who have basically just accused Jesus of being Satan, but still(Matthew 12:24) I sometimes paint this picture in my head of the big bad Pharisees,and forget that I can totally be a Pharisee… and so can you.

Before Jesus speaks these words, he says in verse 34 “For out of the overflow of the heart the mouth speaks.” This is why our words matter!

Our words represent truths hidden in our hearts!  Jesus cares deeply about what’s on the inside. His love for our hearts is what led him to the cross! Jesus isn’t simply warning us to watch our mouths, Jesus is warning us not to be careless with our hearts!

What words come out of our mouths?   Are they words that represent the heart of Christ? Do they speak life and love or are they filled with self hate and criticism towards others?

These are important questions to ask yourself.

I was listening to a lady teach on prayer.  I found myself thinking I wouldn’t have worn that.  She’s kind of boring.  I like her hair, though.

What is wrong with me???  This is a Jesus loving lady who has wisdom to share!!  I prayed  Jesus forgive me.  I have jealousy in my heart.  I still struggle with vanity and image.  I thought I was beyond this.  Please forgive what’s in my heart.

Our hearts are who we are; our feelings, secrets, thoughts….. the good and the bad reside in our hearts. Jesus wants to redeem each and every shortcoming that keeps us from becoming more like Him.  This is what spiritual growth looks like. He deeply cares about our hearts.

The words we think and say bring to light the roots in our hearts that Jesus wants to save and heal. Tweet that.

Let’s not be careless with our words, our hearts.  Let’s pay attention to the words we think and say and ask Jesus to reveal what ugly roots He wants to dig out.

That is what Jesus does!!!

He purifies our hearts so that we can see Him and seeing Him is everything.

Matthew 5:8 Blessed are the pure in heart, for they will see God.

I have a verse that I memorized years ago to help me stop my ugly thoughts.

Philippians 4: 8:Finally Brothers, whatever is true, whatever is noble, whatever is right, whatever is pure, whatever is lovely, whatever is admirable-if anything is excellent or praiseworthy-think about such things.

After I confessed the ugly in my heart about this sister in Christ who loves the Lord, I began to pray blessings over her and thanking God for what is true, noble, right, pure, lovely, and admirable about her.

I hate the ugly in my heart.  It’s embarrassing and shameful, but it reminds me of my never ending need for Christ.  I know God to be faithful in cleansing us from unrighteousness, so as I continue to hunger and thirst for him, my words and thoughts will change.

And because of Jesus, I am not  afraid of that judgement day. Praise the Lord because the God of Peace is with me.

When you make Jesus Lord over your life, He will purify your heart.  He will cleanse your mind,  He will cleanse your heart and your words will change as a result.

Jesus ends this section of scripture with Matthew 12: 37 “For by your words you will be acquitted, and by your words you will be condemned.”

Our heart will acquit us and what’s in our heart will condemn us.  But Jesus wants our hearts. He has mine; I pray He has yours.

Have you given your heart to the Lord? Have you made Him Lord over your life?  Are there areas in your life that you need to confess before the Lord to clean? There is so much goodness when you do.

So….Please do… please give him your heart.  Give him the good, the bad, the ugly.  A life following him is a life worth living.

If you are reading this and you realize that your words don’t match a heart that belongs to Jesus, here is a prayer for you.

Dear Heavenly Father,

I confess that I’ve never asked you to save my heart.  Jesus please save my heart.  Please cleanse me and help me see you.  Come into my life. Thank you for your mercy and help me now. Please fill me the  Holy Spirit so that I may live a life that increases in love, joy, peace, patience, kindness, goodness, faithfulness, gentleness, and self-control.  Help me to be able to say I love you and mean it.  Bring me people, passages, and books into my life so that I may know you and love you more deeply.

Thank you Jesus for the cross and for saving me.

In Jesus name,


Maybe Jesus does have your heart, but  your words aren’t speaking evidence of joy, peace, and encouragement like they used to. Here is a prayer for you!

Dear Jesus,

Thank you for loving my heart enough to cleanse it. Please help me to identify the lie I’m listening to that is keeping me from speaking words of life, peace, and enjoyment.  Thank you for loving me enough to never stop wanting chasing after every little piece of my heart that belongs to you.  Help me to go and sin no more as I learn to walk in your love.

In Jesus name I pray,



8 thoughts on “Are We Careless With Our Words? Why We Shouldn’t Be.

  1. Beautiful post, Lauren. Yes even our thoughts can be sins and we must go to confession for those sins as well and ask for forgiveness. I catch myself doing that all the time, but I remember a priest saying in his homily during mass one Sunday that we need to be careful about our thoughts as well. When we are at church listening to the readings are we paying attention to what the reader is saying or are we thinking about that pile of laundry we need to wash that afternoon, or the lady in the third row with that ugly dress. It is important that we pay attention to our thoughts as well.

    Thanks for sharing!

  2. That scripture in Matthew is an anthem I sing over my students each week, reminding them that they need to speak life over themselves. Sometimes they are so willing to defeat themselves before they start and it breaks my heart. And then at home, my kids remind me I do the same thing. 🙂 Ah, the lessons we teach them they return to teach us.
    Thank you for the lovely reminder to speak grace and life and love!

  3. God is so good ! Some thing happened at work last week that really brought me to my knees and had me cry out to God my heart was so hurt be people that I became angry this message touched my heart. It’s exactly what I was praying I want God to change me. Thank you for writing this.

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